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Looking Straight Ahead

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In this exercise we want to is focus our vision and our attention forward, ignoring everyone and everything around us.

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What

Train our attention and focus.

How

Focus your vision and attention straight ahead, ignoring everything around you.

When

Usually while walking in public.

Duration

For as long as you want.

2019-06-26

Context

This exercise is truly extraordinary and it’s an exercise I try to practice as much as I can when I’m out in public.

The premise behind it is simple, however it’s an exercise that a lot of people struggle with.

Essentially with this exercise what we want to do is to always look straight ahead without turning our heads unnecessarily.

Part of the problem when our focus and attention is weak, or even if we’ve never bother to question otherwise, is that we can find ourselves procrastinating or getting distracted easily.

And this can often be noticed in full-force when we’re out in public.

Without proper focus, we can find ourselves staring unnecessarily at every person we walk by (often, to try and seek attractive men/women) or perhaps it might even be looking into the windows of shops.

Well, today we’re going to do something about that, and we’re going to consciously refraing from staring at others in public.

This is an amazing exercise, especially in regards to developing control over our focus and attention, and by learning to ignore other people in public, you can learn to focus on what’s truly important.

Yourself.

Not to mention, humans usually function better when they have a clear goal in mind, and this exercise has been designed to teach you how to focus on your goals in a very simple way.


Instructions


What you’ll want to do is stare straight ahead while you’re walking in public (obviously common sense applies here, don’t cross the road while doing this etc.)

Focus your vision and attention right in front of you.

As weird as it sounds, it can even help to think or yourself as a train on rails, which can only move in one direction and which doesn’t have the capacity to even turn left or right.

The aim of this exercise is to learn not to stare at others, nor have your attention hooked in any way by anything in particular, whether that be people, nature or even store-fronts.

Often what I find helps is if you try and look above people’s heads into the far distance, so that even though there may be people in front of them, you’re technically not looking at them persay.

Of course, find what personally works for you.

Often what happens, especially if you’re a porn addict, is that you’ll intentionally go and search around in public looking for attractive people, which merely reinforces our porn addiction and doesn’t help us develop control over our minds.

With this exercise, we’re going to train ourselves not to do this, by having a higher principle in mind.

Rather than search around, we are instead going to be focus on the journey and our destination instead.

Certainly, this exercise works best if you’re in public where there are plenty of people, otherwise it can still work around the house, although to significantly less effect.

Just remember that no matter what, you are 100% in control of your body and you determine where your eyes look.

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