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1.

Preface

Welcome to the NeverFap Deluxe Guide!

Thank you for deciding to take a deeper look into the NeverFap Deluxe Method of overcoming porn addiction.

If you haven’t yet had the chance, I highly recommend checking out the NeverFap Deluxe Homepage before continuing with the guide.

I also highly recommend checking out the NeverFap Deluxe Summary as a comprehensive alternative to the guide. It provides a more concise summary of the homepage.

It explores in great detail what you can expect from NeverFap Deluxe, and it will serve as a fantastic introduction and precursor to some of the skills you’ll be learning from the materials on this website.

2.

Introduction

Coming to the realisation that you’re a porn addict, as well as making the decision to overcome your porn addiction is arguably one of the most profound things you will ever do.

It will completely change the way you feel, think and perceive on every level.


But only if you're willing to trust the process.


What does this mean?

It means challenging yourself with new ideas you may outright disagree with, and which may not make any sense to you at all for a period of time, inspite of the effort you spend practicing them.

It means rejecting and ignoring your human instincts, as well as accepting that everything you know about yourself is not only incorrect, but the primary reason why you’re addicted to porn.

It means committing to your daily routine of meditation, even when your mind is convinced that it’s unnecessary because you’ve managed to remain mentally stable for a couple of weeks.

It means acknowledging how truly dire and self-destructive your current habit is, as a very serious form of self-harm which you have normalised as a viable solution to your problems.

For a literal number of years up until now.


In essence, it means distrusting yourself.


Because up until now, you’ve put so much trust and faith into lying to yourself and supporting your addiction, that you’re no longer able to identify what’s truly wrong with you.

Which is to say that you’re in denial.

You’re in denial because you continue to masturbate to porn inspite of how much you hate it, inspite of how rotten it makes you feel, as well as how much it is destroying you in almost every single way.

It takes a considerable level of denial to allow oneself to self-harm to this extent, and it is an incredibly serious condition no different to having a severe mental illness.

Acknowledging that you’re in denial is the first step towards initiating positive change.

Because although we may have good intentions at heart, when we fail to recognise that we’re in denial, we can only continue to repeat and strengthen these self-destructive behaviours, time and time again.

Denial which causes us to distrust our recovery processes, because we fail to recognise how truly harmful these behaviours are.

The same kind of denial that pedophiles and murderers use to justify their actions, because they feel comfortable with their own reasoning and logic, regardless of the consequences.

Just as you have until now.


This is why it takes up to 5 years on average for people to overcome their porn addiction.


Because they remain in denial about their problems, without truly realising the extent to which they maintain this facade.

Well, I’m here to break the cycle.

Understand that the sole reason why people relapse and lose control of themselves, is because of a decision they’ve made at some point to distrust the process.

Perhaps they thought they’d be fine skipping out on their routine meditation for a couple of days, because they were comfortable with the level of mental health they’d achieved up until then.

Perhaps they failed to maintain their awareness because they thought it would be okay to act with excessive judgement in a particular situation, because “that’s just what everyone does”.

Perhaps they decided to continuing working past their designated nightly cut-off time because they decided in this one particular instance, that it was okay to put their work before their mental health.

All behaviours which outright neglect the sanctity of our commitment to the addiction recovery process.

Behaviours which inevitably lead to compromised positions where we find ourselves no longer able to control our thoughts and emotions, because our minds have lost balance.

Behaviours which leave us truly terrified, when we realise that we’ve left ourselves with nothing more than our hesitation in order to deal with our difficult feelings and emotions.

Behaviours which almost always result in relapse and an all-too-familiar sense of dread and disappointment.

You distrust the process. You lose the game.

It’s that simple.


On the other hand, if you commit to the steps you are 100% guaranteed to succeed.


There is absolutely no doubt about it.

No different to hitting the gym everyday, if you work out consistently you will put on muscle and you will become strong.

You can ignore it. You can fear it. You can tell yourself it’s not worth it, or that it won’t work for you. You can even claim that weakness is a superior attribute, and that exercise is a form of self-harm.

It really doesn’t matter what you think. In no way does your opinion change the fact that consistently lifting heavy weights in the gym will improve your strength.

Your mental health is no different.

If you practice meditation everyday and work on your awareness, you are guaranteed to become more in control of your thoughts, feelings and emotions over time.

The process doesn’t lie.

I mean, it’s just a process after all.

A series of steps which have been designed to help you improve as you take them one step at a time. It really doesn’t get anymore simple than this. Trust the process and you will succeed.

Of course, I’m not expecting you to trust the process immediately.

People will tend to distrust the process a few times, also known as the process of trial and error. But that’s really up to you and how you choose to reason with your own denial.


Most commonly, the reason why people end up distrusting the process is because they eventually believe that they're somehow above it.


For example, they may reach a point of being so mentally stable for so long, that they assume that they can just go back to old habits without being affected by it, as if they’ve become permanently cured.

This is not how processes work.

For example, you can’t just eat once and be done with it. You need to eat every single day in order to sustain yourself, and your mental health should be treated no differently.

You need to be practicing meditation and other awareness exercises every single day, not because you’re inherently messed up, but because it’s a normal, healthy thing to do.

Of course, if you’re not already dedicating time towards any amount of self-maintenance, then even the slightest commitment may seem excessive for some people.

When facing these kinds of dilemas, it can help to remember that you’re in denial, and that what you’re feeling is always unreasonable and needs to be challenged.

I know when I started out, I found it immensely difficult to convince myself to find even 5 minutes to dedicate towards meditation, because I viewed it as a huge waste of time, if not a burden to my schedule.

Yep, I was a tough nut to crack.

Certainly, you’ll have the opportunity to come to the same realisations that I did throughout my journey, given I’ll be teaching you the same healthy coping mechanisms that I’ve also adopted.

Which is a key thing to note, because as a collective we’re all ultimately going to experience the same emotions and feelings of recovery.

The same initial feelings of doubt. The same overwhelming feelings of elation once we discover the power of meditation. The same feelings of empowerment once we gain full control over our emotions.

The same end result of being happy, confident and entirely porn free without even a hint of hesitation.

Not because I believe in your inherent ability to succeed.

But because I understand the incredible power of process as a driving force for permanent change, regardless of who you are or where you’ve come from.

The process is your best friend.

3.

Core Concepts

If you haven’t yet had the chance, I highly recommend that you check out the NeverFap Deluxe Homepage.

It explores in great detail what you can expect from NeverFap Deluxe, and it serves as a fantastic introduction into some of the skills you’ll be learning from the materials on NeverFap Deluxe.

Following on from the homepage, there are essentially two core skills we must learn.

The first skill is awareness

Awareness relates to your ability to remain conscious.

In other words, your ability to navigate your mind in order to pursue healthy coping mechanisms. Ultimately, it is what will allow you to assert control over yourself.

In fact, your awareness is the reason why you’re reading this paragraph, because at some point you made the conscious decision to do something about your porn addiction.

Of course, just because your mind is conscious, doesn’t mean that you’ve developed the ability to think consciously all the time, let alone when your emotions have gotten the better of you.

No different to hitting the gym, only by practicing awareness can we learn to snap into consciousness at the worst of times, and therefore pursue healthy coping mechanisms without difficulty.

Awareness is your ticket out of this mess. It is your capacity for conscious action and your core mechanism for maintaining civil accountablity over your actions.

It will be key to your success.

The second skill is calmness.

Calmness is your ability to remain relaxed.

It is an important ability to have because in 99% of situations it will be your go-to healthy coping mechanism for dealing with mentally challenging situations.

In fact, it will be your go-to.

Period.

You should always aim to remain calm and calculated, as that will allow you to be at your absolute most effective. Primarily, because we are at our most conscious when our mind is calm.

Which is to say that our ability to exert control over ourselves is at our highest when we are calm, which makes dealing with cravings and other potentially disruptive feelings an absolute piece of cake.

Calmness is what makes things easy.

You want this to be easy, right?

Meditation is how we will be developing these skills.

Why meditation?

Because meditation teaches us both awareness and calmness at the same time, which is precisely why it’s so powerful in terms of teaching us to adopt healthy coping mechanisms.

Furthermore, it’s an incredibly simple process, which is vital when we already have limited conscious awareness to begin with.

Honestly, all it takes is 10 minutes of meditation per day in order to develop sufficient control over your awareness and calmness.

It’s one of the easiest and most impactful investments you can ever make towards your mental health.

It will change your life.

Well actually, there is a third skill Ambition.

Ambition is everything else once you’ve mastered awareness and calmness.

Ambition is more a social expectation in terms of helping you thrive in society, rather than an actual requirement in terms of assisting you in maintaining your happiness and well-being.

Something which is designed to enhance your life, but still remain secondary to awareness and calmness.

It’s part of the reason why I don’t place a heavy focus on ambition, nor give it much attention.

In general because it’s something that will come naturally to you once you master your awareness and calmness, so you’ve got that to look forward to as well.

It’s simply the cherry on top of the cake.

Not the cake itself.

4.

In Summary

Awareness is what keeps you in check.

Calmness is what makes you effective.

Meditation is how you get there.

Ambition is how you kickass.

...and this, is where your journey begins.

What you choose to do next is entirely up to you.

Here are my #recommendations

1.

Develop a Daily Meditation Routine

2.

Increase your capacity for Awareness and Calmness

3.

Join the NeverFap Deluxe Accountability Program

4.

Subscribe to the 7 Day NeverFap Deluxe Kickstarter

5.

Begin reading some NeverFap Deluxe Articles

6.

Listen to the NeverFap Deluxe Podcast

7.

Download the NeverFap Deluxe Mobile App

1.

Daily Meditation Routine

The absolute most important thing you can do to ensure success with your porn addiction recovery is to begin developing a solid mental health plan that you can commit to everyday.

This plan will include a daily routine of meditation which you will practice without fail, every single day for the rest of your life.

No different to brushing your teeth everyday without fail, your commitment to this practice must be viewed as a form of basic maintenance on a very fundamental level.

Because you know what happens once you stop brushing your teeth?

You begin to develop cavities via tooth decay, which then progresses into developing gum disease, which is not only going to be more painful in the long-run but will completely destroy your health overall.

Your mental health is no different.

Too many times have I seen people practice meditation for a few weeks, only to stop because they think they’ve reached “balance” which almost always results in falling back into their old habits within a matter of days.

Please don’t be that person.

There’s literally nothing sexy about relapsing.

Thankfully NeverFap Deluxe contains a heap of different resources to help you develop your meditation routine, so you can learn to remain consistent and not fall into these traps of situational complacency.

A good place to start with is the NeverFap Deluxe Meditation page which covers a range of different resources and approaches towards meditation.

At a bare minimum you should be meditating for at least 10 minutes everyday. Personally speaking I do it within half and hour of going to bed, although it’s important for you to develop a routine which best suits you.

Here are some resources to help get you started.

2.

NeverFap Deluxe Practices

Once you have a solid meditation routine underway you’re essentially 90% of the way there towards being on the path of developing effective control over your mind.

Of course, a lot of people struggle to maintain that routine which is sadly the reason why most people end up remaining addicted for so long, simply because they don’t stick to the process.

Because chances are that you may have other unresolved issues in regards to your mental health, which may be negatively impacting your ability to develop your capacity for conscious awareness.

That’s why a created an extensive series of NeverFap Deluxe Practices to help you better understand yourself and your mental health problems, so you can commit to the recovery process without fighting yourself every step of the way.

Exercises which focus solely on practical, verifiable steps you can take on a daily basis to help you build capacity for awareness and calmness.

These exercises have been taken from my own porn addiction recovery journey, which have helped me tremendously in terms of better understanding my own mental health issues.

Regardless, in all cases it’s important that you first develop a reliable mental health routine around meditation, as that’s the easily the most effective thing you can do to maintain balance and improve your mental health today.

3.

Accountability Program

Once you have the basis of your mental health strategy all sorted out, the next thing we are going to do is put in place a system of accountability that is designed to not only get us excited about recovery, but also help us keep on top of the healthy coping mechanisms we will be practicing everyday.

In order to do this, we will be posting a daily journal into the NeverFap Deluxe Discord #accountability channel.

Can’t be bothered?

Well, that’s the reason why it takes 5 years on average of people to overcome their porn addiction. You distrust the process, you lose the game. It’s honestly that simple.

Furthermore, it’s a great opportunity to see what everyone else is doing in terms of their healthy coping mechanisms, as well as understand the steps they’re taking on a daily basis to get 90+ days with their progress.

Another great thing about #accountability is that it’s a tight-nit community. Because we’re small, you get the care and attention you deserve and I always respond to direct messages sent to me.

Oh, and let’s not forget the acknowledgement process! We acknowledge each other’s journal entries with emojis, which as we all know, is largely why the internet was invented.

For a set of useful guidelines on the NeverFap Deluxe Accountability Program, please check out the NeverFap Deluxe Accountability Program page.

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7 Day NeverFap Deluxe Kickstarter

Well, well, well.

You’ve made it this far, so well done.

The 7 Day NeverFap Deluxe Kickstarter is an email campaign I’ve put together which aims to teach you a little bit more about the inner workings of NeverFap Deluxe.

It covers a range of core topics which will help you understand some of the dynamics of porn addiction and porn addiction recovery, delivered straight to your email address every day over the course of a week.

It’s a great way to learn the basic concepts of NeverFap Deluxe, as well remain connected for any future updates or product releases!

If you’d like to learn more about the 7 Day NeverFap Deluxe Kickstarter, I’ve put together this fancy 7 Day NeverFap Deluxe Kickstarterlanding page which explores in greater detail what you will learn.

I highly recommend it to newcomers to NeverFap Deluxe or for those who would simply like more information on how best to approach their porn addiction.

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The Introduction - Day 0

The Trust - Day 1

The Awareness - Day 2

The Calmness - Day 3

The Meditation - Day 4

The Relapse - Day 5

The Consistency - Day 6

The Community - Day 7

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5.

NeverFap Deluxe Articles

NeverFap Deluxe Articles are designed to provide you with a better understanding behind the how and why of porn addiction recovery.

They are fantastic resources which provide in-depth analysis of issues related to porn addiction recovery, and are referenced throughout the website.

Here are some of my top picks.

6.

NeverFap Deluxe Podcast

The NeverFap Deluxe Podcast is a fornightly podcast about porn addiction recovery.

I wanted to have some fun with this one, it’s a bit rediculous at times, but I’d also think to think that’s equally as informative as it is oddly sensual.

The podcast is available on iTunes, Castbox and Spotify.

The NeverFap Deluxe Podcast

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NeverFap Deluxe Mobile Application

The NeverFap Deluxe Podcast is a fornightly podcast about porn addiction recovery.

I wanted to have some fun with this one, it’s a bit rediculous at times, but I’d also think to think that’s equally as informative as it is oddly sensual.

The podcast is available on iTunes, Castbox and Spotify.

Next Steps

If that isn't enough for you, then feel free to get involved with our r/NeverFapDeluxe Reddit Community!

We even have hilariously terrible memes such as this one:

Still not sure?

If you're still not sure what to do, then that's okay.

I'm currently willing to offer a detailed break-down of next steps which you can take if you post in our

In addition, I also offer personal coaching

Just slowly make your way through the content on the website, and feel free to ask any questions in our Discord channel. I'm usually around (assuming it's within my timezone) and I'm more than happy to respond.

Remember that you're essentially adopting an entirely new way of thinking, so it's not necessarily going to be easy, nor make complete sense overnight.

Don't worry if it doesn't immediately make sense or if it feels uncomfortable. It's to be expected.

Think of it like going to the gym. You're not going to become fully ripped within a few days. That's simply not how your physical body works, and your mind is no different.

This is why we have such a strong emphasis on practice and consistency. There are no special tricks, nor shortcuts. There is only your commitment to your mental health.

Further Questions?

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Latest Articles

Why Positive Affirmations Don't Work

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In this article I write about positive affirmations and why they don't work as an effective coping strategy.

Summary:

  • Positive affirmations don't help you remain calm.
  • Positive affirmations are in fact a form of distraction which almost always leads to relapse.

The Utter Pointlessness Of Maintaining A PMO Streak

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In this article I write about why maintaining PMO Streaks is an ineffective habit which can set our recovery back.

Summary:

  • Maintaining PMO Streaks does nothing to help us develop meaningful control over our minds.
  • The alternative is to simply refrain from doing it.

Improvements I've Noticed From My 300+ Day Porn Addiction Recovery Journey

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I thought I'd write a summary of some of the changes I've experiencing throughout my 300+ day porn addiction recovery journey.

Summary:

  • The difference is honestly night and day.
  • I have more energy, I have pure focus and I have literally become a machine of productivity.

Is Masturbation Healthy?

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In this article I discuss the dynamics of porn addiction and whether masturbation alone can be considered healthy, both for addicts and non-addicts alike.

Summary:

  • It is possible to have a healthy relationship with masturbation, assuming you are not a porn addict.
  • Most porn addicts will never have a healthy relationship with masturbation.
  • There is nothing inherently healthy about the act of masturbation itself.

The Most Important Thing Porn Addicts Don't Do

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This article describes how porn addicts delay their recovery by not properly engaging with the process.

Summary:

  • The most important thing porn addicts don't do is consciously engage with their mind.
  • Instead, they remain within their own comfort zone, often without realising it.

Why You May Be Struggling With Your Meditation

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In this article we discuss some of the way people may struggle with practicing meditation in general.

Summary:

  • The purpose of meditation is to help you maintain balance.
  • It can help to think of meditation as a form of observation, no different to seeing or smelling.

What Is Sex Like Post Recovery?

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What is sex like once you've fully recovered from porn addiction? Well, it's great. No questions asked.

Summary:

  • Put simply, it's great.
  • However, chances are that your issues with sex extend well-beyond your porn addiction.

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The Introduction - Day 0

The Trust - Day 1

The Awareness - Day 2

The Calmness - Day 3

The Meditation - Day 4

The Relapse - Day 5

The Consistency - Day 6

The Community - Day 7

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