There’s one excuse that I often see porn addicts come up with in regards to their addiction.
I don't have enough time.
Usually, it means time to spend towards addressing their porn addiction or mental health issues.
After all, we’re all incredibly busy people. We have things to do. Ambitions to fulfil. I mean, what does any of this have to do with porn addiction?
It’s an attitude which quite ironically, prevents us from actually focusing on what’s important in life.
Which is why we’re talking about it today.
Because if you did have enough time to spend towards addressing your porn addiction, you simply wouldn't be a porn addict.
So what exactly does it mean to not have enough time?
Well, that’s entirely up to you.
Maybe it’s because you feel compelled to always be in a state of constant “productivity”, and that time spent working on your mental health doesn’t seem productive.
Or perhaps, it’s merely the feeling of productivity you crave.
For example, checking your phone every five minutes to see if someone’s messaged you over Facebook.
On the other hand, you may just be so obsessed with your goals and ambitions, that everything else which sits outside of those goals is seen as being irrelevant.
Regardless of your interpretation, I’m here to tell you that thinking that you do not have enough time for your mental health is a disorder.
That is correct.
If you believe that you do not have enough time for your mental health then you have a mental disorder.
It’s a mental disorder because it’s a choice to willingly neglect one’s mental health, due to habit and desire.
And there are never any valid reasons why anyone should ever neglect their own mental health.
It’s the most important thing you have, and it’s incredibly difficult not to suffer when you don’t have your mental health in order.
The moment you compromise on your mental health is when you introduce the potential to suffer.
Although perhaps you’d rather suffer just to satisfy that feeling of productivity or get that extra bit further with your ambitions.
Again, ask yourself how this mentality isn't a sign of having a disorder.
Part of this disorder consists of valuing time over quality of life.
So a question worth asking is:
What is time without your mental health?
Without mental health, time becomes an uncontrollable struggle of judgement, self-criticism and depression.
Instead of having control over what we think and feel, we instead find ourselves taking everything personally and feeling helpless to absolutely everything in our life.
Without our mental health, days may seem like years in situations we largely find unbearable, which has the possibility to become any situation because that is no longer for us to decide.
Without our mental health, life becomes very difficult.
Of course, there's a reason why poor mental health is often described as a self-repeating cycle.
We choose to obsess over something which we believe will make us happy i.e. addiction, uncheked ambitions etc.
We worship that activity with our effort and time, believing it will make us feel better about ourselves.
We end up feeling empty once the obsession wears off, inspite of all the time we spent believing in these solutions.
Then we go and repeat the cycle again and again and again.
And to be honest, it's a bit shit.
I’m sure you think so too.
All because we don’t believe we have enough time to actually commit to something which will know will improve our frame of mind.
Although perhaps you don’t really see the point to doing things which may or may not improve your mental well-being.
Certainly, I don’t blame you.
It’s hard to evaluate anything when your emotions are completely out of whack, and you genuinely believe that pursuing the same behaviours again and again will truly be “different this time” despite producing the exact same results of hope and depression in what seems to be a never ending cycle.
But let me say that there's never a bad time to commit to your mental health.
One key thing to understand about mental health is that it’s accumulative.
And the true beauty of mental health is that everything you’ve done up until now to negatively impact your mental health is completely irrelevant.
For the only thing which truly matters is that which you do today.
Ultimately, it’s about focusing on what you can do today, and this is the key to breaking this habit of never committing to your mental health.
Realising that mental health isn’t achieved by what you don’t do, but rather by what you can do today.
Honestly, spending ten minutes at night before bed meditating is all most people need.
If you don’t truly believe or understand why your mental health is more important than anything else in your life.
Then you’re going to continue to pursue activities which will conflict with your mental health.
Just remember that whatever other things you achieve in place of your mental health, can never replace mental health itself.
Which is to say that your achievements outside of mental health will never serve as a true solution to your problems.
And when you do decide to work on your mental health, you may very well discover that everything you’ve pursued up until then has been utterly pointless.
From this point of view, you have nothing to gain from neglecting your mental health.
No matter what other benefits those other achievements may provide.
Because in the overall scheme of things, your mental health is what determines how you feel, not your achievements.
So in the overall scheme of things, 10 minutes, or even an hour a day spent working on your mental health is miniscule, compared to the benefits it will provide in helping you better understand yourself.
Moving forward, I recommend checking out our list of NeverFap Deluxe Practices for a list of exercises you can do to develop awareness in your life.