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A Complete Understanding Of The Porn Addiction Recovery Process In 5 Minutes

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It takes approximately 90 days to overcome porn addiction.

It's called the NeverFap Deluxe 90 Day Rule, because those without healthy coping mechanisms rarely make it past 90 days.

In other words, if you can make it past 90 days without relapsing, then it most likely means you've developed effective control over your mind.

NeverFap Deluxe aims to teach you this control.

In most cases, getting past the 90 day mark will usually signify the end of your porn addiction forever.

On the other hand, if you struggle to consistently get past 90 days, then it most likely means you're approaching your recovery in the wrong way.

Because it's easy to get to 30 days (or even 60 days) using unhealthy coping mechanisms.

Including bipolar obsession, mindless over-working, distracting ourselves through escapism, self-criticism as a consequence of being excessively judgemental, and more.

However, they almost always result in relapse.

Because a lot of

arguing with family struggling with your career not caring about yourself dealing with toxic people feeling depressed pushing yourself too hard life not going as planned
.

can happen over 90 days.

...and it's these situations where unhealthy coping mechanisms crumble.

This is where 90% of relapse happens.

Because unhealthy coping mechanisms don't help you deal with your emotions. They only help you successfully ignore them until they become unmanagable.

Relapse which could have been avoided, if only you had invested in healthy coping mechanisms which would have made dealing with those tough situations, trivial.

Like, absurdly trivial.

With my healthy coping mechanisms in place, I know in precise detail exactly what I need to do to keep my mind regulated and under control. Without thought.

Now imagine how awesome it would be to have that kind of control over your own life.

Because I can teach you that.

Period.

You see, overcoming porn addiction isn't really about porn.

It's about developing control over your mind.

...and that's really all healthy coping mechanisms are.

Skills and abilities which provide you with control over your mind, so that when your mind is feeling lost and under pressure, it won't fumble and collapse like a tower of cards.

For example, learning to remain calm and collected with a clear frame of mind, rather than react in hesitation to your overbearing thoughts and feelings.

Including the ability to...

Value your mental health above all.
Quiet and focus your mind.
Love and accept youself unconditionally.
Be confident about your recovery.
Commit to long-term thinking.

Value your mental health above all.

Quiet and focus your mind.

Love and accept yourself unconditionally.

Be confident about your recovery.

Commit to long-term thinking.

Control which anyone can learn with practice and consistency.

Right now.

So you may be wondering.

What are some of these unhealthy coping mechanisms?

Well, they include things like.

Which is why.

We want to be adopting some healthy coping mechanisms instead.

Skills and abilities which have been designed to help us deal with our feelings and emotions, in a concise and effective manner. Like smashing ice with a sledgehammer.

Some healthy coping mechanisms include.

So.

So.

How.

How.

Do you.

Do you.

Develop healthy coping mechanisms?

Develop healthy coping mechanisms?

It's simple.

With Practice and Consistency.
NeverFap Deluxe.

Don't even think about cheap work arounds. I will hurt you.

Practice and Consistency are the only two things which matter to your recovery.

Everything else is pure noise.

There are no cheap hacks, like putting a porn filter on your computer as if that's actually going to physically stop you from pursuing your addiction.

It doesn't work.

Although you're more than welcome to try ;)

Yeeaaaah, but what do I practice?

Daddy Reade!?!?

Well, tldr.

Here's what you do.

10 minutes of meditation each day.

NeverFap Deluxe.

And honestly.

That's 90% of what the NeverFap Deluxe Method is all about.

Of course, there are other Healthy Coping Mechanisms you can practice too

Depending on where you're at mentally.

You weird addict person.

ewwww.

Ultimately, there are three broad categories of healthy coping mechanism. #NeverFapDeluxe

Awareness

Calmness

&

Ambition

Most people are severely deficient in one or two of these areas.

Now, this is where it gets hard.

Since I don't know you (although I'm sure you're lovely), it's difficult for me to take you down a particular path to help you develop control over your mind.

However, I am willing to offer personalised advice if you post in our subreddit with the tag #NewNeverFapper in your title.

Not only does it help us build the NeverFap Deluxe Community, however it's a great opportunity for you to receive help and ask questions from someone who's been there before.

For some further guidelines on what information you should provide so I can best assist you, please checkout the #NewNeverFapper submission guidelines.

There's simply too much useful content on this website that it's hard to know where you should focus.

Not to mention, everyone is truly different in terms of their life circumstances and a strong focus of NeverFap Deluxe is helping you get it right the first time.

Regardless, here are some basic guidelines.

Awareness.

Calmness.

Ambition.

On the other hand, if you haven't seen a pair of pants in weeks because you've been glued to your computer screen in a haze of dysphoria and pre-cum.

You'll probably want to work on all three.

In general, almost everyone needs to work on their awareness to help them cope more effectively.

In fact, our awareness and calmness are the two areas most people will need to focus on, and is largely what this website will help you develop.

In most cases, it's as simple as committing to 10 minutes of meditation per day.

It's how I personally got started.

Now you can too.

So without further ado...

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