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The Porn Addiction Recovery Process.

Who?

My name is Julius Reade and I'm a recovered porn addict.

  • I no longer crave porn.
  • I no longer watch porn.
  • I don't even think about porn, at all.
  • I no longer obsess over women in public.
  • I no longer view women any differently to men.
  • I no longer judge women in any capacity.
  • I have control over my mind and my thoughts.
  • I'm conscious of my feelings and emotions.
  • I'm comfortable with my emotions, both positive and negative.
  • I accept myself for who I am.
  • I'm happy, motivated, confident and ambitious.
  • I'm unafraid of being vulnerable.

Here's what I do.

I explain step-by-step exactly how to give up porn.

With the NeverFap Deluxe Method, I explain exactly how and why these steps work.

Because once you intuitively understand how something works, you will commit to it forever.

Please keep reading if you'd like to learn more.

Sincerely,

Daddy Reade.

1.

How it works

It takes approximately 90 days to overcome porn addiction.

It's called the NeverFap Deluxe 90 Day Rule, because those without healthy coping mechanisms rarely make it past 90 days.

In other words, if you can make it past 90 days without relapsing, then it most likely means you've developed effective control over your mind.

NeverFap Deluxe aims to teach you this control.

In most cases, getting past the 90 day mark will usually signify the end of your porn addiction forever.

On the other hand, if you struggle to consistently get past 90 days, then it most likely means you're approaching your recovery in the wrong way.

Because it's easy to get to 30 days (or even 60 days) using unhealthy coping mechanisms.

Including bipolar obsession, mindless over-working, distracting ourselves through escapism, self-criticism as a consequence of being excessively judgemental, and more.

However, they almost always result in relapse.

Because a lot of

arguing with family struggling with your career not caring about yourself dealing with toxic people feeling depressed pushing yourself too hard life not going as planned
.

can happen over 90 days.

2.

...and it's these situations where unhealthy coping mechanisms crumble.

This is where 90% of relapse happens.

Because unhealthy coping mechanisms don't help you deal with your emotions. They only help you successfully ignore them until they become unmanagable.

Relapse which could have been avoided, if only you had invested in healthy coping mechanisms which would have made dealing with those tough situations, trivial.

Like, absurdly trivial.

With my healthy coping mechanisms in place, I know in precise detail exactly what I need to do to keep my mind regulated and under control. Without thought.

Now imagine how awesome it would be to have that kind of control over your own life.

Because I can teach you that.

Period.

You see, overcoming porn addiction isn't really about porn.

3.

It's about developing control over your mind.

...and that's really all healthy coping mechanisms are.

Skills and abilities which provide you with control over your mind, so that when your mind is feeling lost and under pressure, it won't fumble and collapse like a tower of cards.

For example, learning to remain calm and collected with a clear frame of mind, rather than react in hesitation to your overbearing thoughts and feelings.

Including the ability to...

Value your mental health above all.
Quiet and focus your mind.
Love and accept youself unconditionally.
Be confident about your recovery.
Commit to long-term thinking.

Value your mental health above all.

Quiet and focus your mind.

Love and accept yourself unconditionally.

Be confident about your recovery.

Commit to long-term thinking.

Control which anyone can learn with practice and consistency.

Right now.

4.

So you may be wondering.

What are some of these unhealthy coping mechanisms?

Well, they include things like.

5.

Which is why.

We want to be adopting some healthy coping mechanisms instead.

Skills and abilities which have been designed to help us deal with our feelings and emotions, in a concise and effective manner. Like smashing ice with a sledgehammer.

Some healthy coping mechanisms include.

So.

So.

How.

How.

Do you.

Do you.

Develop healthy coping mechanisms?

Develop healthy coping mechanisms?

6.

It's simple.

With Practice and Consistency.
NeverFap Deluxe.

Don't even think about cheap work arounds. I will hurt you.

Practice and Consistency are the only two things which matter to your recovery.

Everything else is pure noise.

There are no cheap hacks, like putting a porn filter on your computer as if that's actually going to physically stop you from pursuing your addiction.

It doesn't work.

Although you're more than welcome to try ;)

Yeeaaaah, but what do I practice?

Daddy Reade!?!?

7.

Well, tldr.

Here's what you do.

10 minutes of meditation each day.

NeverFap Deluxe.

And honestly.

That's 90% of what the NeverFap Deluxe Method is all about.

Of course, there are other Healthy Coping Mechanisms you can practice too

Depending on where you're at mentally.

You weird addict person.

ewwww.

Ultimately, there are three broad categories of healthy coping mechanism. #NeverFapDeluxe

Awareness

Calmness

&

Ambition

8.

Most people are severely deficient in one or two of these areas.

Now, this is where it gets hard.

Since I don't know you (although I'm sure you're lovely), it's difficult for me to take you down a particular path to help you develop control over your mind.

However, I am willing to offer personalised advice if you post in our subreddit with the tag #NewNeverFapper in your title.

Not only does it help us build the NeverFap Deluxe Community, however it's a great opportunity for you to receive help and ask questions from someone who's been there before.

For some further guidelines on what information you should provide so I can best assist you, please checkout the #NewNeverFapper submission guidelines.

There's simply too much useful content on this website that it's hard to know where you should focus.

Not to mention, everyone is truly different in terms of their life circumstances and a strong focus of NeverFap Deluxe is helping you get it right the first time.

9.

Regardless, here are some basic guidelines.

Awareness.

Calmness.

Ambition.

On the other hand, if you haven't seen a pair of pants in weeks because you've been glued to your computer screen in a haze of dysphoria and pre-cum.

You'll probably want to work on all three.

In general, almost everyone needs to work on their awareness to help them cope more effectively.

In fact, our awareness and calmness are the two areas most people will need to focus on, and is largely what this website will help you develop.

In most cases, it's as simple as committing to 10 minutes of meditation per day.

It's how I personally got started.

Now you can too.

10.

So without further ado...

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Guide.

11.

Oh.

And one last thing.

I created these fundamental principles that you might find useful.

The Five Fundmental Principles of NeverFap Deluxe!

  • Choice over mind
  • Balance over reward
  • Struggle over none
  • Awareness over all
  • Uncondition over judgement

Here's the deal.

These five principles help explain the five most common things people generally struggle with.

In the past, I've used them to help me better understand myself, as well as uncover what I personally needed to focus on.

For example, Choice over mind explains that you're always in control of your ability to react, and that how you react determines what your outcome in life will be.

An idea which people tend to ignore.

These principles serve as mantras to help empower you and remind you of what you need to do to achieve your goal of overcoming addiction.

...and that ignoring any of these principles, will simply lead to the continuing of your porn addiction.

The principles teach you the right way.

If you're still a little confused or overwhelmed by everything, then these five principles are an amazing place to start.

12.

#accountability program

Maybe you're just lookin' for a "support group" to share cuddles with!? Well, The Reade© has you covered!

Join our Discord Server today. It's sexy.

Participate

The NeverFap Deluxe Podcast

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Listen to the NeverFap Deluxe Podcast, you slacka!

Listen

NeverFap Deluxe Articles.

A series of articles to help explain the NeverFap method.

13.

Here are a selection of our top articles to help get you started.


NeverFap Deluxe Appendix

/neverfap-deluxe-appendix

An appendix of related NeverFap Deluxe terms, phrases and lingo.

Summary:

  • An Appendix of NeverFap Deluxe related terms.

What Is NeverFap Deluxe?

/what-is-neverfap

NeverFap Deluxe is a comprehensive porn addiction recovery process. It is a system which is designed to teach you self-control in the easiest way possible.

Summary:

  • NeverFap Deluxe is designed to teach you self-control.
  • Self-control is counter-intuitive, because you are not already in control of yourself.
  • Observation is the most important skill you can learn in regards to overcoming porn addiction.

The Ultimate Aim Of NeverFap Deluxe Practices

/the-ultimate-aim-of-neverfap-deluxe-practices

NeverFap Deluxe Practices are designed teach you self-control through verifiable practices.

Summary:

  • NeverFap Deluxe Practices are designed to help you develop healthy coping mechanisms through awareness and perspective.
  • These practices should be used as a tool of self-discovery for your feelings and emotions.

Creating Your First NeverFap Schedule

/creating-your-first-neverfap-schedule

NeverFap Deluxe provides you with a schedule of exercises so that you can learn to develop awareness and self-control over your emotions.

Summary:

  • Start out by practicing observation for ten minutes each day with <a class="link" href="/practices">Observe Your Senses</a>.
  • In future, add an additional exercise and rotate that exercise on a weekly basis, whilst continuing daily observation practice.

The Five Principles Of NeverFap As They Relate To My Life

/the-five-principles-of-neverfap-as-they-relate-to-my-life

The Five Principles of NeverFap are a series of guidelines which can help you better handle your porn addiction.

Summary:

  • The Five Fundamental Principles of NeverFap have been devised from my own personal approach towards addressing porn addiction.

What Makes NeverFap So Different

/what-makes-neverfap-so-different

NeverFap is a comprehensive porn addiction recovery platform that is designed to make overcoming your porn addiction as simple as possible.

Summary:

  • NeverFap Deluxe describes exactly what you need to do in order to overcome porn addiction.
  • The NeverFap method of overcoming porn addiction is built around verifiable practices that teach you healthy coping mechanisms.
  • Practice. Practice. Practice.

Why am I A Porn Addict?

/why-am-i-a-porn-addict

Understand why we are addicted to porn has very little in common with figuring out how to overcome porn addiction.

Summary:

  • Asking why we are has little to do with actually changing who we are.
  • Over asking why is a process called rumination, and it is a form of self-harm
  • Actions are responsible for helping us change. Rationalisations on the other hand do not help in any way.

The One Rule Of NeverFap

/the-one-rule-of-neverfap

Practicing meditation and awareness exercises on a daily basis is the only thing that matters for your porn recovery.

Summary:

  • Metrics, goals, lists and ideals are meaningless.
  • Hard processes and practices are what count towards helping us move forward.
  • Practicing those processes and practices on a daily basis is key.

The Five Fundamental Principles Of NeverFap

/the-five-fundamental-principles-of-neverfap

The Five Fundamental Principles of NeverFap are a series of principles which help you easily and efficiently address your porn addiction.

Summary:

  • Fundamental principles are hard truths, irrespective of how you think about them.
  • These principles have little to do with porn, because porn recovery has nothing to do with porn.
  • There are Five Fundamental Principles of NeverFap.

My Personal Porn Recovery Journey

/my-personal-porn-recovery-journey

This article explains my journey with porn addiction, along with some of the realisations I had along the way.

Summary:

  • I last watched porn in October 20th 2018.
  • The first reason why I've managed to succeed is because I came out about my disorder to my partner.
  • The second reason why I've managed to succeed is because I began practicing meditation.

Is Masturbation Healthy?

/is-masturbation-healthy

In this article I discuss the dynamics of porn addiction and whether masturbation alone can be considered healthy, both for addicts and non-addicts alike.

Summary:

  • It is possible to have a healthy relationship with masturbation, assuming you are not a porn addict.
  • Most porn addicts will never have a healthy relationship with masturbation.
  • There is nothing inherently healthy about the act of masturbation itself.

The Most Important Thing Porn Addicts Don't Do

/the-most-important-thing-porn-addicts-dont-do

This article describes how porn addicts delay their recovery by not properly engaging with the process.

Summary:

  • The most important thing porn addicts don't do is consciously engage with their mind.
  • Instead, they remain within their own comfort zone, often without realising it.

Why You May Be Struggling With Your Meditation

/why-you-may-be-struggling-with-your-meditation

In this article we discuss some of the way people may struggle with practicing meditation in general.

Summary:

  • The purpose of meditation is to help you maintain balance.
  • It can help to think of meditation as a form of observation, no different to seeing or smelling.

What Is Sex Like Post Recovery?

/what-is-sex-like-post-recovery

What is sex like once you've fully recovered from porn addiction? Well, it's great. No questions asked.

Summary:

  • Put simply, it's great.
  • However, chances are that your issues with sex extend well-beyond your porn addiction.

The Fallacy Of Willpower

/the-fallacy-of-willpower

In this article I discuss how willpower is used to create a false sense of hope, as well as how it's simply an ineffective way of thinking about recovery.

Summary:

  • Willpower merely cultivates a false sense of hope.
  • The alternative to willpower is to engage in conscious change.

What Does It Mean To Relapse?

/what-does-it-mean-to-relapse

In this article I explore the definition of relapse, and how this whole idea of relapse is entirely counter-productive to our recovery.

Summary:

  • Relapse is a pointless concept which does nothing to empower you with positive action.
  • I define relapse as anything which doesn't help you develop control over your mind.

My Personal Meditation Routine

/my-personal-meditation-routine

In this article I discuss my personal meditation routine and how I personally use it to help me maintain balance in life.

Summary:

  • At a minimum I meditate 10 minutes each day before bed.
  • I also use other opportunities throughout the day to meditate and practice awareness.

Further Questions?

Head on down to our NeverFap Deluxe subreddit or Discord channel where myself and others can help you with your questions.

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Latest Articles

Is Masturbation Healthy?

/is-masturbation-healthy

In this article I discuss the dynamics of porn addiction and whether masturbation alone can be considered healthy, both for addicts and non-addicts alike.

Summary:

  • It is possible to have a healthy relationship with masturbation, assuming you are not a porn addict.
  • Most porn addicts will never have a healthy relationship with masturbation.
  • There is nothing inherently healthy about the act of masturbation itself.

The Most Important Thing Porn Addicts Don't Do

/the-most-important-thing-porn-addicts-dont-do

This article describes how porn addicts delay their recovery by not properly engaging with the process.

Summary:

  • The most important thing porn addicts don't do is consciously engage with their mind.
  • Instead, they remain within their own comfort zone, often without realising it.

Why You May Be Struggling With Your Meditation

/why-you-may-be-struggling-with-your-meditation

In this article we discuss some of the way people may struggle with practicing meditation in general.

Summary:

  • The purpose of meditation is to help you maintain balance.
  • It can help to think of meditation as a form of observation, no different to seeing or smelling.

What Is Sex Like Post Recovery?

/what-is-sex-like-post-recovery

What is sex like once you've fully recovered from porn addiction? Well, it's great. No questions asked.

Summary:

  • Put simply, it's great.
  • However, chances are that your issues with sex extend well-beyond your porn addiction.

The Fallacy Of Willpower

/the-fallacy-of-willpower

In this article I discuss how willpower is used to create a false sense of hope, as well as how it's simply an ineffective way of thinking about recovery.

Summary:

  • Willpower merely cultivates a false sense of hope.
  • The alternative to willpower is to engage in conscious change.

What Does It Mean To Relapse?

/what-does-it-mean-to-relapse

In this article I explore the definition of relapse, and how this whole idea of relapse is entirely counter-productive to our recovery.

Summary:

  • Relapse is a pointless concept which does nothing to empower you with positive action.
  • I define relapse as anything which doesn't help you develop control over your mind.

My Personal Meditation Routine

/my-personal-meditation-routine

In this article I discuss my personal meditation routine and how I personally use it to help me maintain balance in life.

Summary:

  • At a minimum I meditate 10 minutes each day before bed.
  • I also use other opportunities throughout the day to meditate and practice awareness.

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